Do you remember when your husband was your boyfriend? Do you remember when you weren’t with him, that he was constantly on your mind? You would get butterflies in your stomach, just thinking about him! Flirting was natural, you couldn’t help yourself. Every love song was devoted to him. When you were together, you were hoping he would grab your hand and that he’d passionately kiss you, just like in the movies! You would talk for hours and dream about your future kids, home and life together. It wasn’t hard to constantly tell him how great he is, or how handsome and awesome you thought he was, because that’s what went through your mind all day long.
So you married your boyfriend thinking all of this would continue, and for a while it did. But very slowly you slipped into a rut, moved into a home that needed constant maintenance, life got busy and then came the kids. Slowly but surely he was no longer your only focus. Thoughts of him were more about how he could help you out with the kids when he got home. How you could change him or get him to start working on your “honey do list!” When he came home you would give each other a quick peck, and then it’s time for dinner, chores and the kids. You fall down exhausted into bed, to tired for passion, encouragement or even thinking about the future. You were happy to get through the day!
This was the story of my life for the past 25 years, except you can also throw in adultery! You see, the enemy knew I longed for the boyfriend I lost along the way, and there was always someone willing to be that for me, in order that I would fulfill their own desires of wanting a girlfriend.
Flash forward to this past weekend, a weekend that forever changed my life. There wasn’t anything too special about that weekend other than my husband changed his plans he had to take me for a walk on the beach, shop, eat ice cream, flirt and talk about our future. We held hands and passionately kissed. I’ve recently been noticing how strong, loving and handsome he is and it’s not hard to lift him up, love and encourage him.
So what changed was it him, was it me? I believe it is me. MY PERSPECTIVE HAS CHANGED! It was me who got side tracked and lost focus. It was me that got self-centered, it was me that forgot my boyfriend has been here all along. As I drove to L.A. yesterday every love song reminded me of him, I couldn’t stop thinking about how awesome he is and I definitely couldn’t wait to get home to see and kiss him! I’m truly married to my boyfriend!
Rhonda Ferguson- Identity Theft Restorer, Teaching People Who They Are To Free and Empower Them!
Rhonda Ferguson was born and raised in Southern California. She is gifted prophetically and declared an Identity Theft Restorer by our Heavenly Father. Her passion is to see a million people free in their Mind-Body-Spirit! To be fully equipped for this mission, she has been trained as a Biblical Counselor and has just recently received her Certification as a Nutrition and Wellness Consultant. Rhonda has started a wellness company called R.F. Wellness.
Rhonda has a calling on her life to travel to different churches throughout the United States, proclaiming the reforming power of the gospel. Her vision is about teaching the bride that they have been completely set free and empowered at the cross. She believes that it’s time for God’s children to stop separating their Mind-Body-Spirit and realize one does not affect the other.
Rhonda has two grown children who are leaving the nest to pursue God’s plans for their lives. This allows Rhonda to pursue her own passions and dreams for God’s kingdom, while also giving her the time to enjoy precious moments with her high school sweetheart and husband of twenty-six years, Bill.