Being known is one of humanity’s deepest core needs. Without connection we can not be known. We cannot get the need of being known met in a healthy way if we refuse to connect and be vulnerable.
Weekly, I have the privilege to meet with people and pray with them. I have noticed so many people are scared of vulnerability. If they aren’t scared of it, they’ve had bad experiences where their vulnerability wasn’t appreciated. Or they’ve been taught that vulnerability is a weakness.
I have to admit that when I was younger the thought of being vulnerable and letting people into the deepest parts of my heart scared the crap out of me. After years of learning and practicing healthy relational tools and God’s intention for connection, I started to change what I thought about vulnerability. Specifically, when it came to me realizing the beauty and value in being known by God himself.
Romans 8:27, the Message translation says, “He knows us FAR BETTER than we know ourselves.” This should be a verse that makes us feel so free, so safe, so connected. What challenges us about that truth is if we don’t believe God is as good of a father as He says He is. I find comfort knowing that God knows me. Let’s be real, it takes a lot of intentional self-awareness to know why we do the things we do and why we think the way we do.
Even if we don’t take the time to understand what it is that’s going on inside of us, GOD DOES. He delights in who we are. He knows our deepest needs, He gets my jokes, He values my growth process. He can identify with and understands my pain. He knows how many hairs are on my head and how many chin hairs I’ve plucked! He has patience for me when I am learning and repeatedly offers me His grace. He cares the same for you as well.
When we feel like we need to hide in shame and keep our secrets to protect ourselves, we tell our souls, “Your needs aren’t worth meeting.” We end up at war within ourselves. Often this produces anxiety. There is a better way! We can choose to be most vulnerable and most intimate with the one who formed us, died for us, and believes the best in us.
Redefined by Grace,