What a big topic to blog about right? Being only 23 years old I will do my best to convey what God has shown me through my walk with him. Well… here it goes!
Like every other christian guy, my walk with God has had its ups and downs. I have made mistakes and held on to the best thing that was in front of me, only to realize later that it was destroying me (a.k.a past relationships). Thank you Jesus for grace and forgiveness though! There has also been so much joy and so much vulnerability in my walk with Jesus and over the years I really believe he has shown me more and more what it means to be a Man of God and especially how to view his daughters. God highlights this in verse 1 Timothy 6:11 where it says, “Man of God! Flee sin and follow the path of righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, and meekness.” What a powerful verse and one that I aspire to be like. The patience part is hard but I will not fall victim to letting just a pretty face determine my actions! That’s not healthy and can lead to destruction.
It definitely has not been easy to do but what I have discovered in my singleness is how precious God’s daughters are, more precious than gold, silver, diamonds, and all the other precious metals discovered. The worth that a daughter in Christ has is unfathomable, indescribable, and I want to say to all who are reading this, “Your worth is so valuable that God sees you as royalty!”
Above the exterior beauty that a woman has there is nothing more attractive than a woman who gives everything to God. What that looks like to me is a woman who is obedient in God’s calling on her life, a woman who can walk with dignity, righteousness, joy, and authority! Also, modesty is important to me. I believe a single godly woman should set a high bar in what they want in a spouse one day. A single godly woman should not settle for second best. They should set an example on what a man should look for and vice versa.
I have learned that it is best to get to know someone as a friend first before dating because you can still learn who they are without putting a title on the relationship. Plus, as a man I really believe that if I am interested in a christian woman I will invest time into getting to know them as a friend FIRST! This is where the patience part comes into play and it’s important for a christian man to set boundaries while establishing a friendship with the opposite sex. There is nothing worse than crossing boundaries because that’s where heartbreak happens and that’s not a fun place to be and it’s a place I never want to be in again.
Another piece of advice I would give is not to RUSH in finding a spouse. Remain steadfast, patient, and obedient in your walk with God and I am a firm believer that since God knows the desires of your heart he will put that man in your path. If you believe God wants the best for you he will make it so!
You are Worth the Wait!