I have been struggling with choosing to be kind and gentle. My mom says it’s a choice, sometimes it doesn’t feel that way. This is bad and has caused trouble for me in many ways. I tend to be a bit sarcastic. I learned it from my dad who is the king of sarcasm and I refined it during my middle school lunch breaks.
My mom came home today with a cup that says, “ Throw kindness around like confetti.” This cup is plain black with white lettering and it is showered with “kindness confetti,” but if you look closer you notice that it isn’t only showered it is surrounded by confetti. Kindness is meant to surround our friends, family, and even random people. When we surround people with our kindness we help them with life. In the book of Ephesians Paul writes in Chapter 4:
“Guard your speech, never let ugly or hateful things come from your mouth, but instead beautiful gifts that encourage others: do this by speaking words of grace to help them.
(The Passion Translation)
Not only is it important to help people, the very least we can do is guard our mouths so we do not cut them down with our words. I’m sure at one point in your life a parent or authority figure (or the Disney movie Bambi) taught you, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” While this is a good tool for self-control, the reality is – your words create worlds.
What you say has the power, the ability even, to shape someone’s world for the better or for the worse. We are all perfect in God’s eyes. He has the best most-loving eyes. When we don’t see people the way He does, when we don’t see ourselves the way He does, we can feed the lies that people believe with what comes out of our mouths. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t speak. Overall, being kind is more important than being correct. Kindness is one of those thing that catches on. It’s contagious like a yawn. If you are nice to one person, they are more likely to want to be nice to other people. The best case scenario is someone could feel so loved they want to be loved by the Father also.
Being kind can also develop the best of friendships. When I was in third or fourth grade my friend Taylor and I decided to be nice to the girl no one really liked, that was one of the best choices I ever made. We became amazing friends. We would spend many hot summer days swimming in her pool and playing. But one day all the kindness truly paid off and she decided to accept Jesus into her heart, it was such a beautiful day.
Kindness can pay off so much more than expected. You can tell someone just what they need to hear in order to change their life forever. So don’t just shower them, surround them in kindness.
The choice is yours,