Let me ask you a question… what do you say are some of the most important things in life? You might say coffee, education, Netflix, the list goes on and on depending on your preferences. But one of the most important things in life is a good friend. Notice that “good” is an adjective. You could have just about anyone as your friend. While not all of them might be good friends, there are friends who will stand up for you and friends who get you in trouble.
1 Corinthians 15:33; Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character”
Proverbs 13:20; Walk with the wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.
These verses prove that when we choose to surround ourselves with bad company we suffer harm. I remember, in fifth grade, I made some very foolish friends. They were horrible influences, kids who got me in trouble instead of backing me up. I also learned that I changed who I was when I was with them. Then when I came home things were rough! It took me a while to learn how to reset after a day of school to go back to being me. Something obviously was not right.
Proverbs 18:24; One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
While there are friends who are bad influences, there are also friends who push you to be the best version of you. friends who walk with you toward your calling.
I’m learning this in my life right now and I’ve chosen three things I need to do to have healthy friendships.
1) Choose people who will walk with me on my journey. Friends who will be with me in good and in bad! In any relationship people make mistakes, sometimes a good friend is someone who is quick to forgive and quicker to ask for forgiveness. Forgiveness is such a vital quality in any relationship.
2) Tell my friends what is going on in my heart (this is hard for me) and let them challenge me. I don’t like opening up but I am learning how to do it! I’m also learning how to be moldable. A good friend will tell you what you are doing wrong. Not in a judgmental way, but to help you become better. One of my best friends just so happens to be my mom. She is the bestest friend possible. She is always calling her friends and kids to be better and reminding us of who you are. When I was struggling with laziness my mom reminded me of the calling on my life and encouraged me to be better and grow.
3) I need boundaries. There are some friends I can share my crush with and some friends I can not! We cannot have forty friends that we value the same. In the bible Jesus had twelve disciples, twelve friends, but, he really only had three close ones. You can’t give forty different people the keys to your heart. Boundaries are important because they protect your heart from people who will not respect it.
I hope you will take a moment to re-evaluate your relationships like I am right now and maybe reconsider who your friends are and if they are the right ones for you.
The choice is yours,