I sat with a mom at the Urgent Care a few months ago in the height of the most recent flu season, her four-year old and one-year old running back and forth throughout the waiting room. I looked at her as she had finally rallied her tribe and told her, “You’re going to make it through this.” She looked back at me, as if I had read her mind and said out loud, “Are you sure?” I laughed and replied, “YES, you are! I felt the same way when mine were as riotous!”
I remember one day I walked into my oldest son’s room after nap time. Had it not been for the smell and giggles, I probably would have continued to capitalize on the me-time and spend a few more seconds drooling on the couch. However, when that pungent smell started hitting every room of the house, responsibility demands action!
I walked into the room to find that smell no longer contained by his Pampers, he had rubbed it all over the walls and crib! It was spread over every bar and body part. I was stunned! All I could do was call my mom and apologize as I had remembered hearing stories that I was a similar rascal as a toddler.
So, to all you moms out there that can’t wait until nap time, you who are too tired to dream at night, or those of us who occasionally consider church childcare as a well-deserved babysitter, this one is for you!
You are going to make it!
You were born for this!
You were born to do hard things well!
This season is NOT limiting your destiny. It is shaping it. Your ability to choose joy and guard peace in these moments is going to be the catalyst for your future! Nothing is forgotten with the Lord and this season is about way more than diaper changes and picking up Cheerios off the floor!
Reminiscing on those days, here are four simple things that I would say to moms with toddlers:
1) Nobody cares that the floor hasn’t been mopped in a few weeks!
2) Mama said there’d be days like this!
3) You are not crazy for having to repeat yourself 100 times a day.
4) You are not destined to be sticky, smelling and exhausted the rest of your life.
Okay, so maybe we won’t always be sticky and smelling but possibly exhausted. Exhausted because we are committed as moms to give ourselves for the sake of love for the remainder of our days. And on those days when you’re crying and apologizing to your kids for not managing yourselves well, know that God is always faithful!
My wonderful momma used to pray over us every night before bed and she would often say, “Lord bridge the gap in their hearts between the love that they needed today and the love that they received!” I didn’t know what it really meant as a kid. But I know as an adult and I often pray the same thing! It’s so freeing knowing that no one expects us to have the parent-thing entirely down! And on those days when survival is the goal we can rest easy knowing that God has our backs and we were born to do hard things well!
If you have a similar/trying story about family and kids that was hard in the moment but you can laugh at it now, please share in the comments! We’d all love to hear from you!
Redefined by Grace,