I have two adult children and two under age. Those adults, as teens, just couldn’t wait to get out, to be free! Away from the rules, the chores, the curfews, the hovering mom. The world is so much easier out there right? HA! Do you have any adult children? As we had to, they need to experience life on their own. Isn’t it crushing though when they make decisions that you know will only bring them pain and problems? No matter what you say or how nice you propose it to them, they choose their way. I wish they would learn from my past mistakes or even others.
My oldest will be 21 soon. He is in the Air Force. He called me the other day to tell me he would really like to live by us and work with our business when he gets out. WOW! My momma’s heart leaped for joy! He said family is more important than anything and he misses us. I never expected that would happen. When he left home three years ago my heart was sad, yet happy for him to go experience the world and make his dreams come true. I want so much for my boys to be full of joy and not settle but be all they can and all they desire to become, to be content and be filled with God’s love.
My second son left for college last year after being tremendously disappointed with not being accepted into the Air Force Academy. Depression and anxiety take hold of him and it is very scary at times. He also wanted to leave home, to experience a life of freedom. We are picking him up in a couple of days to bring him home for healing and to explore what he wants for the future. He too asked to come home. WOW, double shock! I am happy he has decided on his own that he needs help and wants us to be a more of an active participant in his life.
Our family has been through so much after Jim died, that was another blog called Trust Issues, we basically fell apart for a while. We have spent the last couple years rebuilding our marriage, our family. It has been an uphill battle at times, rocky roads, roller coasters, just plain crazy. My husband and I separated twice, yet both of us decided we were worth fighting for. We love each other, we love our boys and family. We choose with assurance and expectation that all the bad things, God will indeed use for His glory and to the good. To bring hope to the broken and lost. To help heal the shattered hearts. To save what we think can’t be salvaged.
Maybe you are wondering about your adult children on their own, or your family is struggling with issues that seem unbearable, or you’re on the other side of it. Please, share in comments what got you through. If you are going through the storms of life right now, know this my friend, the God of the universe is with you, walking you through it. He knows the pains, the fear, the heartaches you feel. He feels it too. He wants you to know, He will never leave you or forsake you. He loves you more than we as moms can even love our kids. That is crazy, isn’t it? What has really helped me is to let go of what I can’t change and bless my husband and kids with whatever they need. Words are extremely powerful. When I use them for good to bless others, rewards come in many ways. Keep fighting the good fight! I bless you to stay focused on Jesus and all he has for you.
Romans 8:37-39: “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Deuteronomy 31:8: “It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.”
Blessings of love, joy, and peace,