Actually. It’s quite the opposite for me. I recently heard a well-known actress make a speech, but her explicit words turned me off from her. She has played many roles, and I always enjoy seeing her on the big screen. But the words coming out of her real-life role as a speaker was something that made me sad and cringe. Is it wrong to dislike someone because of how they choose to speak?
My sweet husband told me once, “You are the only person that doesn’t swear.” There are a lot of people who purposely do use explicit, vulgar, foul, and lewd words. The problem, however, is it still holds a shock value to me when I hear it. But, let’s clear the air, I am not perfect and I have accidentally spit out some unpleasant words. Yes, profanity happens! To some it’s a daily language, to others it’s out of anger, release, to offend others, or possibly to keep a distance from people. But a thought saturated my mind… surely there are many people who don’t swear?
Reading through the sciences and psychological answers as to why people swear, I could easily become misguided and start popping out taboo words with no conscience. Society may label me as prudent, timid and boring for my lack of what has become more the everyday thing.
But one thing is for sure…I persevere every day to not have “careless” words leave my mouth (Matthew 12:36). There is a Bible verse I am in love with, and it reads, “walk in a manner worthy of your calling” (Ephesians 4:1 ESV). God has poured out his love on me, guided me, kept me from harm, redeemed me, and cares for me in magnificent ways. How can I withhold His beautiful love from others? I do want to walk in a worthy manner. Now, to go forward to the next verse, “2with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love,”.
Recently, I have learned how to listen to others regardless of their choice words. Not too long ago, I was around a couple of women sharing a frustrating incident and one interjected obscenities. I stood there and looked straight into this person, beyond the words and straight into her heart. I never have been able to do that before. As a matter of fact, I have been accustomed for a long time to hearing others apologize to me after swearing up a storm. I used to hear often, “Oh, I am sorry”, or “Excuse me”, primarily because I cannot hide much of my natural thoughts from my face. I have a readable face. No Poker games for me. Even with a game of Gin Rummy, my opponent (mostly my husband) will know all too quickly the hand of cards I hold. Yes, people sometimes know something is wrong before I even know it because they see my face.
So, how do I get around the outer look I display of my inner cringe when I hear profanity? LOVE! I can turn off the T.V., walk away from video games, and use my family review app to choose a movie to watch, but I cannot control people. Profanity may be a nuisance to me, but learning God’s way to love brings relief and feels so good!
“Above all, love each other deeply,” 1 Peter 4:8
Sweet hugs and lots of love,