Every year there are birthdays to celebrate, your own, friends, and family’s. My children’s birthday celebrations start in January. Having children brings on many different emotions – love, hope, excitement. Let’s be honest, there is also fear, but love overcomes the fear. Your child will be depending on you and your plan is to provide your child with a good life.
Every year, I bake my daughter April a cake, her choice. Well, this year, I thought it would be the year that she wouldn’t need that cake. She received a huge cake from her hubby. Nope. She still wants one from her momma. Your kids will always be your babies no matter the years.
It’s a good sentiment to remember if you are in the empty-nester transition. Although, technically, I am not an empty-nester, because I have a teenager at home, I have felt like one. I went from a full home with seven family members to a home of three family members. I particularly like this description of an empty-nest; “the stage in a family’s cycle when the children have grown up and left home to begin their own adult lives. For parents, the empty-nest sometimes results in midlife anxiety.” Add…a blended family, dealing with previous spouses, different belief systems, drifting in your faith, etc. to this stage…well, I am thankful for love and grace.
Papa God, Jesus, and Holy Spirit have shown me a few truths. Below are five gems that I pray will help you in your journey:
1) You are LOVED – Change is good, but difficult at times. You may feel lonely or disconnected, but know that your children love you. And Papa God is with you, always.
“Her children arise and call her blessed…”
“How precious it is, Lord, to realize that you are thinking about me constantly! I can’t even count how many times a day your thoughts turn toward me. And when I waken in the morning, you are still thinking of me!”
2) Let go of your children, but keep them in prayer and trust God with them – You cannot always provide the answer and/or be with your children. God loves your children more than you do and He hears your prayers.
3) It’s good to set boundaries – At times, you may not be available for your children or limits may need to be set. Be confident in your “Yes” and your “No”. Your love connections with each other allows for this.
4) Think about yourself – It’s a new chapter for you. There may be a new career in the horizon, fresh faces to support and love, new journeys to take, such as focusing on your healthy or picking up a new/old hobby, and/or spiritual gifts to explore or expand. Don’t be afraid or guilty to embrace these activities. “Your child’s life will be filled with fresh experience. It’s good if yours is as well.” Dr. Margaret Rutherford
5) Focus on your other relationships – Hubby, old/new friendships. Are there places you still want to visit, plan a trip. Try a new activity with each other. A Facebook friend of mine went on a wine/paint date with her hubby.
It’s a new chapter in your life, an opportunity for new adventures for you to explore. You are so worth it!
Abounding in His Grace,