When my third daughter, Bailey, was a year and a half old, I left her home with my husband so I could take our two older daughters to Disneyland with my mom. After we had been in the park all day, I called home to check in and see how they were doing. My husband said, “Oh my goodness, she doesn’t stop talking!” I had to laugh because I knew exactly what he was talking about. When all three girls were together, Bailey didn’t always have much to say. But when I would take her to the store or out without the other two, she was a little chatterbox. It’s just another indication of how different our children can be when they are not around others. My otherwise quiet high schooler will tell me all about her day if we are driving without any of her siblings.
From the beginning of parenting for my husband and I, we wanted to make sure we were intentional about spending one on one time with our kids. As we have added more kids, it has become increasingly more challenging and sometimes we are better about it than others. Lately, our “kid date nights” have become fewer and farther between and our kids have noticed.
The other day Bailey asked if we could go out, just her and I (and not to the grocery store). She made a whole list of ideas and then asked which one I wanted to do. She had some great ideas on her list but, the truth was, it didn’t matter which one we picked. I just wanted to hang out with her. I told her that I would be happy to just sit and listen to her talk about anything and everything or talk about nothing at all. I just wanted to spend time with her, connect with her heart and make her feel loved and heard. Doing something fun was just a bonus!
Seeing her little face light up and being overwhelmed with love for my sweet girl made me realize that I have a loving heavenly father that feels the same about me! All He wants from me is time. He wants to listen to me talk about anything and everything. Even on the days where I feel like I have nothing left to give or say, He still wants to hang out with me. He desires for me to feel valued and loved and connect with my heart.